What is the end result of having a change become permanent in your life? Is it always happiness or a sense of fulfillment? Often times it is when we speak of these positive changes that joy and comfort are the words expressed most frequently. It’s because this is usually the ultimate goal when you decide to pursue making a change in your life.
But what about those souls that are making changes and it is not for their higher good? These may be changes that become the inevitable by-product due to grieving, anxiety, divorce, physical challenges or other stressors in their life.
We could call them changes, or are they really just symptoms of the underlying problem? The changes that can evolve from these situations may be addiction issues connected with eating, drinking, drugs or sex. These “coping mechanisms” may turn into obsessive compulsive behaviors, panic attacks, depression, phobias such as agoraphobia, acrophobia, claustrophobia, or even turn into fears about something relatively benign like driving in a car, going out socially, going to your job, or even going to get your hair cut!
I’ve had clients come into my office presenting with every one of these symptoms. They were all from a change made in their life due to something that they felt was beyond their control. They didn’t have this awareness at the time, but it became an intrusive and irritating behavior that ended up taking center stage over the REAL problem.
It is a human quality for you to want to feel like you have a level of control in your life. Even if it’s a semblance of feeling in control, it makes life feel more manageable. But it’s an interesting phenomenon that occurs when bad stuff happens to good people! Rabbi Harold S. Kushner actually wrote a most interesting book about it entitled, “When Bad Things Happen to Good People.”
So actually no, not all changes are for the positive and people aren’t able to have positive feelings associated with them.
Join me tomorrow for Part 2 of this post when I talk more about what to do with these changes!
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