Why can friendships feel so elusive even though it is a human need? We all have other human needs like shelter, food, water, and other such basic needs as noted on the first tier of Maslow’s hierarchy. We feel we have more control over getting these basic needs met, so it is not as intimating to go out and make those things occur.
But for some reason, the word friendship brings up many uncomfortable feelings for people. It can bring up moments from their early school years where they felt rejected by peers. The sting of that rejection has a visceral effect even as they remember those experiences. It also can be triggered by adult moments of discomfort.
Friendship can be tricky sometimes. I’ve had clients speak to me about the betrayal they felt in their past friendships and how it has caused them to build walls around their hearts. Such walls need a big dose of trust, kindness, unconditional love, and simply time to break them down.
A lot of people are too impatient to wait for such behaviors, so instead they retreat behind their walls a little more deeply. They avoid the true value of friendship and prefer to reject it quickly before they are rejected again.
I love this friendship quote, “A friend is someone who knows the song in your heart and can sing it back to you when you have forgotten the words.” ~ unknown
It speaks to the true value of a friendship and the tenderness we must give to nurture and keep it alive!
If you’ve had some of these challenges in the past, reading and journaling to selections from my book, “Musings To Help The Soul Remember” titled “Trusting Eyes” and “Listen To The Rainfall” will allow you to build trust again in these areas. You can find my book for purchase at www.newpathwaytohealing.com/products.html.
The true value of a friend is indeed priceless. What joys have come from your friendships?
I am a spiritual teacher, public speaker, and author who has unlocked how to create healing through identifying an individual’s soul lessons. I create healing with my clients as a marriage and family therapist and with the world at spiritual retreats, special events, and workshops.